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Step One: The Way You Think

This may be too much information for some of you, and I apologize if I shared this personal story before, but my experience is the ultimate example of the message I’m trying to get across. I am on a first-name basis with my gastroenterologist. I started seeing him in my 30s for what the American Medical Association suggests doing when you turn 50 (and that’s getting a colonoscopy–there, I said it). I think I’ve had one about every 3 years since turning 35.

But my gut health is NOT the subject of this post today. My attitude about them is. I hate them, pure and simple. It’s not the procedure, it’s the prep. It’s awful. At least it was. When I was due for my last one, I decided I was going to look at it entirely different; I was going to lose a few pounds, feel less bloated, and get some happy medicine and a good nap. I really went in with a different attitude and, ya know what? It wasn’t so bad, considering.

You’ve heard this before, but your attitude about whatever you might be facing can make a HUGE difference. Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.” You CAN according to Kingsford. She's even suggested to develop a “healthy obsession” with the task at hand. Cultivate a healthy state of mind about your financial situation. Instead of being upset because you can’t buy the latest, greatest gadget, look at it as you CHOOSING not to spend your money there because you have more important plans for it. List the good things about being in control of your money (to help keep you motivated) as well as the challenges (so you’re ready for them).

Make a list of positive affirmations that are “personal, positive, pointed, and in the present tense” (Kingsford). You can try, “I have the power to control my money and my spending.” This might sound cheesy, but it works.

You will need to be accountable to others, including yourself. Kingsford suggests writing down a short review of your day just before bed. She recommends giving yourself a score for how well you did that day as well as documenting challenges and successes. I also advise you to go back and reread your entries from time to time. Make notes (with dates) of how you solved a problem or any other thought you might have about your previous experiences.  

Like any positive change in life, this won’t be easy. But you can do it. I have faith in you.

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