Gifts that Matter

When I think about my childhood, there are a few events (some good, some not so good) that really stand out. These specific incidents made big impacts on me, so they really stuck. I bet you can say the same thing. These encounters, good and bad, help shape who we are.

As parents, it is our job to teach our children to be honest, upstanding, contributing members of society. This does not happen by accident. Part of this process involves the experiences we give our children–we can orchestrate PEAK moments for our families that will leave lasting impressions on young, impressionable minds.

What is a PEAK moment? According to de Jager Meezenbroek, Garssen, van den Berg, van Dierendonck, Visser, and Schaufeli in the Journal of Religion and Health, “Peak experiences are often described as transcendent moments of pure joy and elation. These are moments that stand out from everyday events.”

Christmas offers an EXCELLENT opportunity to offer experiences that can become “PEAK moments” in the lives of your children. Instead of getting just another wrapped present, give them a gift they will never forget.

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